'Massive Mocha' explains squashing fetish to Dr Drew

To squash or not to squash, that is the question answered by pofessional 'face-sitter' and BBW Massive Mocha in her appearance on last week's Dr Drew show. Not to be confused with the crush fetish, squashing or smothering fetish is gaining popularity with men who long to be dominated by these truly larger than life ladies.  

At 5'11" and 565lbs, Manchester-based BBWdominatrix Susie Squasher offers squashing for her clients... and not just men. She's even been involved in the creation of girl-on-girl squash videos, too.

Squashing, which can be linked to feederism, is not necessarily considered by a those in Fat Appreciation circles as a typical sub-dom activity. BBW Ruby from CA writes" It is all about the love of that sensation of being engulfed by a fat, feminine body." And squashee Benny agrees, adding: "I love being squashed, squished, smushed, mushed and flattened.  It feels amazing and is so comforting."

Can you be too fat for sex?

When it comes to fat sex, the questions are plentiful! For starters, what is it about the very idea of plus size sex that fills a star like Kirstie Alley with dread? Is is any different from 'normal' sex?

Who better to answer these questions than Hanne Blank, whose book "Big Big Love: A Sex and Relationships Guide for People of Size (and Those Who Love Them)" just so happened to hit shelves this week. Salon spoke with Blank, editor of the fat-loving anthology "Zaftig: Well Rounded Erotica," about everything from sexual myths about the plus-sized to the erotic perks of fatness to bizarre fetishes like "feederism."

Defining the difference between fat admiration and fat fetishism, Hanne says: 

For me, I tend to stick pretty closely to a psychiatric definition of a sexual fetish, a paraphilia, which is basically that there is an object whose presence is synonymous with the ability to function sexually. People who have, for instance, a foot fetish may not be interested in having any kind of genital sex with a partner because the only thing that really works for them is feet. With fat fetishism, like any other fetish, it's a fairly small percentage of the population that really requires the presence of a fat body in order to function sexually. Whereas, people who are fat admirers can be anybody -- anybody could fall in love with or be attracted to somebody whose body happens to be fat.


And, according to Blank, fatter is undeniably sexier:


Sure. It's gonna be different for different people but there are a lot of people that I've talked to who actually feel sexier and more self-confident when they are bigger as opposed to when they are smaller. For some people, it's as simple as the fact that when you're fat, especially when you're fat to a certain degree, you know from the get-go that you're not going to fit into all of these idealized versions of what bodies are supposed to look like, and so you just stop letting that register on your radar. You can just concentrate on enjoying your body and enjoying your partner.



Another thing that comes up for a lot of people is that fat bodies are really sexy and sensual. There are a lot of textures and there's a lot of skin and surface area, and a lot of sensory nerves. Everything that you've got on a thin body you've just got more of on a fat body.

Super-size Me!!

Trawling the internet, I came across the Pimp That Snack site last night. After feeling a bit of sugar lust, my mind wandered to feederism.

Feederism is a sexual practice which centers on the practice of eating large amounts of food to alter the body. This sexual fetish involves the usually more dominant feeder providing the submissive gainer, also known as a cow, with an abundant supply of food for the purpose of weight gain or for arousal from feeding.

This consensual practice has come under a great deal of public scrutiny as a result of media interest in this practice while examining the growing problem of obesity. While there are many subsects of the fetish, it is widely accepted by its community as fairly harmless and more fantasy-based than reality. However, like other forms of abuse, one party or both may not realize they are in harmful relationships. Gainers run the same medical risks as any other obese or overweight person including heart disease and Type 2 diabetes.

Catering to those with fantasies of growing fatter or feeding another, it isn't surprising that this sort of fetish isn't considered 'normal'. Popular culture's desire for fitness and health are at odds with the notion of obesity and weight gain being encouraged. With celebrities and members of the public striving for size zero en masse, it isn't surprising that a woman wanting to be super-sized or a man adoring her for it would come as a shock.

Several online groups have popped up, with very specific tendencies. Yahoo and My Space both have a wide range of groups aimed for feeders and cows alike. Within this community, subsects exist ranging from young women to the furries. This fetish touches upon other fetishes including: body expansion, inflation, maeiusophilia, and vorarephilia.

Craig's List Caters to Every Sexual Appetite

My obsession with Craig's List appears to be getting out of hand. Trawling through various city portals, I went on the hunt for philia and fetish and boy, did I find it!

Lost your ATM card? Don't waste your time ringing the bank - try this 30-year-old Londoner for a bit of financial domination instead. He writes: "Hi Beautiful, i will make this very brief. i am very submissive,and looking to explore financial domination. i have been interested in this fetish for a little while,and have had a little experience. i am not looking for a brutal Domme,or to be blackmailed,so inexperience is most welcome. i am hopefully looking for something long-term,and not for someone to be a money grabber." Erm, but he does want to be financially dominated. He continues: " i absolutely want nothing in return,except your friendship and ocassional pics(off you and the items you are spending YOUR money on)etc. i have of course many ideas,scenarios,which would make this more exciting,and fun. so please,if this turns you on,excites you,and you feel you would like to explore this with me,please email me with a pic(prefebably a pic,holding my name on show etc) as this shows you are for real ,genuine,and not a guy messing me about.and i will love to chat with you. i am 100% for real,and genuine. kissing your boots, atm"

Fed up with handwashing your delicates? A New Yorker mysophilac writes in with a financially lucrative offer: "Simple request... I have an insatiable fetish with stinky panties, hose, socks, shoes. I am in desperate need of a fix! All I ask is for you to put together a stinky "care package" for me. Dig into that laundry basket, and closet... and I will come pick it up anywhere in the city. NSA. EASY MONEY! This is no joke. Please send a pic if you are interested. I have cash waiting for you..."

Got Milk? A lactose tolerant man in the Atlanta area may be looking for you! The breast man's ad reads: "I am a successful and attractive male who is looking for breast play with an attractive woman. If you have large breasts (I have a fetish), please respond with photos...If you are pregnant or nursing that is a plus....No sex needed, I just simply want to taste some milk.... "

Potentially perfect man alert! There's nothing better than coming home to a clean house and a foot massage now, is there? One New Yorker writes: "Ladies: Are you looking for someone to clean your apartment? Need help with vacuuming, moving furniture around, dusting furniture? Well, I would love to do that for you! I'm 29, white male, clean cut, thin build, and i love sexy female feet! I will clean ur apartment, do ur errands, etc for a foot fetish session. I will massage ur sexy feet! U must be under 40 years, with pretty feet. Write back if interested!"

Shoe collection letting you down? Why not let this 38-year-old Philadelphia man be your personal shopping assistant? He writes: "I have a fetish for beautiful women with beautiful feet. I'm ISO of a woman 25-35 who's very well manicured, clean, physically attractive with pretty feet. I prefer pettite women (white or asian) who know how to put themselves together. My interest is to find you, wherever you are, meet and if there's chemistry, spend the day shoe shopping for you. All expenses covered by me at whichever stores you prefer. If there's a sexual spark, that'd be great, but it's not required. I'm a professional, physically attractive (5'9") athletic build, brown hair, blue eys with a good sense of humor. Discretion is a must. Please send your pictures, including face and feet. We can go from there."

Too many beans last night? A 23-year old New York gas man may be the only one to show you love today! The fart fetishist confesses: "I have a fetish for females who would fart in my face and pass gas while I eat their ass and pussy or while fucking. I am very well hung. A freak in the bed. Get back to me with a pic or number and I will return mine..."

Fed up with painful Brazilians? A 45-year-old Londoner's ad reads: "Hello and thanks for looking at my ad. I know that this is a very specific request and is proving difficult to find but it's worth trying! Now that winter is here, there MUST be someone out there, surely, that doesn't shave their pussy? We all know most women nowadays are obsessed with shaving their pussies (shame on you!) and I am probably the exception, in that, I simply LOVE hairy pussies - the more hair you have the more I love it!" This attitude towards pubic follicles is quite refreshing in the days of the obsession with waxing. He continues: "Hair sticking out of the sides of your knickers, hair growing down your thighs, a hairy small-of-your-back leading down to a hairy arse etc...it doesn't matter how hairy you are, I will love it even more! So, all that said, maybe I am looking for the impossible; a woman with a 'natural' hairy pussy that would like a man like me to worship it!"

Enema Curious? Let this man teach you a thing or two! The New Yorker writes: "Are you a woman who is intrigued by this fetish? By the sexual potential of the enema experience? Whether you’ve done it and want to do it again, or are eager to try for the first time, or merely curious, let me know. I’m a man who knows a thing or two about a full bag and a nozzle, and what to do with them. Good looking, imaginative, smart man." While I adore a man who knows how to use his nozzle, I think I'll pass on that sort of specialist tuition!

Looking for a date to the masquerade ball? This easy-going Montreal man is open to the world of exploring masks and blemishes, writing:"I'm 42, healthy, sane, employed, single, non-smoker. I'm seeking a long-term relationship with the right lady. I'm a good guy, normal in every way. I'm affectionate, caring, smart, educated." He sounds perfect - but there's always a catch, isn't there? He continues: "I also have a huge fetish for masks. I like Catwoman a *lot* ! You should be under 40, single, healthy, smart. If you happen to think masks are fun, that's just awesome. But I think it's pretty rare." Ok, so he likes a bit of dressup - what man isn't into Halle Berry as Catwoman. But of course, there's more: "Or if you have a facial blemish of any kind, this might be an unexpected and fun idea for you. Portwine, whatever. I don't care. At all. Want to be my Catwoman?"

Plumbing not had a good seeing-to for some time? One Boston BBW/Chubby chaser would love to give your pipes a good servicing. He writes: "Hello my BBW woman," Oh dear, does he know what BBW stands for? He continues: "I am a plumber looking for some work...the catch is I do the work in the bottomless. So if you have a leaky toilet or a faucet you need fixed. They email me Ok. Seriously this is not a joke. I do the plumbing work for a good fee. If you want a pic you need to be serious. I am serious about what I do. I have a fetish about do(ing) this work in the buff."

Hair-raising fun! On the Atlanta portal, a man visiting the city for a few days writes: "GWM 43 6'5" 240lbs brown hair, blue eyes, avg looks, clean shaven, nonsmoker, nondrugs, disease free, guy next door type with a fetish for a nice head of hair... a guy with a nice head of full hair that likes to have his hair played with-scalp massage, gel'd, greased, shampoo'd and styled. (Not into bald or thinning hair,) just a nice full head of hair I can get my hands into."

They Like Big Butts (And They Cannot Lie)

"You can never be too rich or too thin," remarked Wallis Simpson, the Duchess of Windsor. It appears her thought is being echoed through the western world of the celeb in these days of Size Zero.

Watching Louise Redknapp's path from a slim UK size 8 to a 4 in her documentary "The Truth About Size Zero" a few nights ago, I wondered whether my size 18 frame could compete within this new skeletal sexual arena.

While the likes of Posh Spice and her army of 22-inch-waisted waifs strut the catwalk and appear in glossy, I wonder what the future holds for me. After all, no matter religion, race, sexual persuasion or size we are, we each deserve the opportunity for happiness and pleasure, whether it be sexual or otherwise.

Luckily for me (I think), fat fetishism is on the rise. While there are those with a mere preference for the curvier figure, as one would have with redheads, a growing net community of male (and some female) fat fetishists are making their prescence known.

Their arousal goes beyond a preference for fat, they are sexually excited by the sight and feel of it. Known sometimes as fat admirers or chubby chasers, these mainly slim men and women have cravings for specific weight ranges. Cows, as they're known within the community, vary in size from mildly obese to 500-pound-plus supersize.

Fat Admirer Donald believes that his and other's urges are down to pure biology. After all, a larger, curvier woman has the child-bearing hips and larger breasts which would ensure healthy offspring.

He writes: "From the F.A. point of view, the more luxuriously upholstered a woman's body is, the louder it's screaming, "LET'S GET IT ON!"

The number of dating sites catering for slim partners in search of a voluptous mate is on the rise as is the number of porn sites serving up plates of images and film clips.

Fat Grrl's blog presents an interesting response to this trend for fat as fetish. She writes: "Just by virtue of being fat, I am a fetishized object. Not normal. But I’m a girl, not a fetishized object. I’m not shoes, leather, latex, urine, or any other kind of fetishized object. I’m a girl. I’m a fat girl. It’s like I have been conscripted to play this sexualized role, and there was never an opportunity for me to offer my consent."

It seems within this internet niche, fat is most definitely in fashion, however one must bear in mind the health-related consequences of such a fetish. A small off-shoot of fat fetishism, feederism is increasing in popularity. It involves the slimmer partner, the feeder nurturing to the every need of the gainer, including endless feeding, sometimes to the point where the gainer is immobilised. While it is mainly consensual, it is far from being viewed as acceptable among the western trend of health consciousness and the accepted norm of slimness.

However, we must remember that as with any fetish, this is not the norm for sexuality or lifestyle. Editors at mainstream men's magazines like Nuts, Loaded and FHM appear to be backlashing against the size zero by setting the sexually ideal woman as one with breasts, curves and bums. They are part of a growing trend to reintroduce the feminine form.

So, with all of these extremes, from size zero to half-tonne 'cows' immobilised by their own obesity, where does this leave me and the rest of us in-betweeners? Well, call me old-fashioned, but I'll give pass on the size zero diet of lettuce leaves and stick to my Weight Watchers and aim for a Bo Derek-style 10!