Russian spy's kinky passions

Anna Chapman's not your average spy... The bombshell's ex has revealed that she's anything but average in the sack, too. He tells of her sizzling passion for nipple clamps and whips in this article. from the New York Daily News.

The Notorious Bettie Page...

Just watched the Bettie Page flick...FANTASTIC! Thought I would spice up the page with a pic of the lady herself!

To be honest, I didn't know much about her, but I want to learn more. A great starting place has to be the website for loads of pics, biography and more.

I haven't seen any of her films, so I've had a looky on Amazon and they have loads on there...so I best try to get my student loan to stretch that little bit further!

Let's Play Doctor

While the thought of a nurse in a short uniform or a doctor slipping into a pair of latex gloves sends tingles through many a groin, for some medical care as opposed to tender loving care is needed to send their libido into overdrive. Trawling through various medical fetish sites, I came across a toy kit called "Urethral Sounds" and felt unable to resist checking it out.

These toys can add some spice to urethral play. Inserting objects and sometimes even into the bladder is the name of the game. While these games are usually associated with medical play, such as speculums, rubber gloves and so on, they are more frequently rooted in BDSM with their focus on domination and submissive. For the bottom (submissive), the thrill comes from being violated. Combined with the ultra-sensitive nature of the urethra lining, it can be quite a kick according to those who enjoy this play, such as Fozzie of Fozden.

Two types of instruments can be used in this type of play: sounds and catheters.

Sounds are similar to wands and made from surgical stainless steel. They come in a variety of widths and are inserted into the shaft. A wide range of sounds are available - some are curved in line with the penis, whereas others are straight - forcing the penis to adhere. While sounds stretch and dialate the urethra, catheter play aims to reach the bladder.

Catheters are much longer than sounds and usually constructed from latex or plastic. A variety of catheters are available for play. Some catheters have small balloons that inflate when they reach the bladder, thus emptying it more efficiently. Once catheterised, the bottom has no control over their bladder function. If the catheter is left open, their bladder will drain completely and if clamped, they will be unable to piss, no matter how much they want to! There are several kinds of catheters, however, by far the most common type for use in sexplay, is the Foley catheter. This has a balloon which allows it to be left securely in place for a significant length of time, whereas those without will slip out. A variety of other equipment is essential for this type of play, including: sterile hypodermic syringes, sterile hypodermic needles a sterile catheter syringe, latex gloves, sterile lubricants like KY, sterile towelling and items for cleanup such as flannel, soap and water.

As with any BDSM play, ground rules for safe play must be followed. Be safe and be sane. Also, its important to bear in mind the safety issues involved with this type of play.

• Ensure that all equipment is clean and sterile if possible. With sounds, this is not so important, but you should never insert unsterilised objects into your bladder.


• Don't use any anesthetic in the hopes of deadening the pain as it is not only dangerous but will not allow you to know your limits.


• Use only water-based lubes to ease insertion. Lubes containing nonoxynol-9 or flavoured lubes will irritate your urethra. Oil-based lubes should be avoided as it is difficult to expel aftewards.


• Urination following play should be encouraged as it will help flush out residues and bacteria which you may have introduced.


• If you think you might have an infection, see a doctor ASAP.


• Don't attempt to flush or force liquids into the bladder.


• Do not let go of the sound once its inserted. When it's in more than 4", it will turn a touch and pull the rest of the sound in...apparently it will come out naturally if you lose grip, but I'm not so sure I'd take that kind of gamble - try explaining that at A & E!

Over my knee!

The Sydney Morning Herald reports that a survey of Australian sex habits has revealed that bondage and discipline make actually make men happier.

The new sex study found that two per cent of Australian men and 1.4 per cent of women confess to enjoying BDSM-related sexual activities over the past year, however researchers believe that more are engaging but unwilling to accept the BDSM label. The results of this 20,000 person-strong phone survey give the first snapshot of Australians involved in bondage behaviour.

Lead researcher Dr Richters found that BDSM was most popular among among gay, lesbian and bisexual people and heterosexuals who are "bi-interested".People who engaged in the habit were more likely to be sexually adventurous in other ways, like trying anal sex and phone sex, looking at internet pornography or using sex toys.

Dr Richters said: "These are people for whom sex is a hobby."

They were no more likely to have suffered sexual difficulties, sexual abuse or coercion or anxiety than other Australians, in fact, Dr Richters revealed that men into BDSM scored significantly better on a scale of psychological wellbeing than other men.

"This seems to imply that these men are actually happier as a result of their behaviour, though we're not sure why. It might just be that they're more in harmony with themselves because they're into something unusual and are comfortable with that."

She added: "There's a lot to be said for accepting who you are."

Researchers said the study helps break down the reigning stereotype that people into bondage and discipline were damaged as children and were therefore "dysfunctional".

The lead researcher said: "We really found that BDSM is simply a sexual interest or subculture attractive to a minority, not a pathological symptom of past abuse or difficulty with 'normal' sex."

Dr Richters concludes:"They've just got a broader and more unusual sexual repertoire than most."

Getting figgy with it...

This summary is not available. Please click here to view the post.

Happiness is a warm (unloaded) gun

Attending summer camp as a teenager, I engaged in a spot of gun play (no, not that kind) on the riflery range. For those unfamiliar with the experience, there is indeed a rush to be had....sometimes a good one, sometimes bad. Perhaps it's the power of controlling a vehicle of death or the reverberations of your gun's firepower echoing through your body - whatever the case, it certainly gets the adrenalin going. Of course, if you have an encounter with a chipmunk who decides he wants to play behind your target, like me, your blood-stained bullseye is enough to put you off ever wanting that gun-powered rush ever again.

A brief look at any Western news programme confirms that there is a taboo-laden love for firearms. In the US, where gun ownership is a contentious issue, while some call for a gun ban, groups like the NRA are calling for greater ownership. While some prefer a gun ban to improve society, others believe that society makes gunpower a necessity. When dealing with such a moral divide, there's always bound to be a fetish lurking in the mist. For gun fetishists, there is not only excitement but sexual fulfillment to be found in a warm gun.

For the gun fetishist, the attraction is much deeper and far more complex. Visually, its phallic shape allows for the mind to wander. Some gun fetishists take advantage of this aspect, utilising the weapon as a dildo. Deviant Desires author Katherine Gates adds: "Interestingly, most of these are bisexual women who only play with guns with other women. They might hup on the outside of the weapon, or wrap the end of the barrel with foam to protect their mouth or vagina from the sharp sights. Most are satisfied with unloaded guns. Others load the weapon with duds (not blanks, which actually have primer in them and explode.) Some use real ammunition and trust their abilities and knowledge of their weapons to keep the play safe." This sort of BDSM edgeplay is rare and certainly falls outside the criteria of 'safe, sane and consensual'. Writing about this sort of play, Gates writes:" I personally think it's a bit nuts, but then again so is scuba diving with angry sharks and bungee jumpng off tall buildings. I guess if you really know what you're doing, you'll reduce the risk enough to bring it back into the realm of sanity if not safety. "

As sensual beings, it is not merely enough to feel or experience the gun's heat, the mere scent of the gun, the taste of gun powder after discharge or involving the gun in activities may arouse. Gun lover Katherine Gates writes: "when I clean and shoot my guns I do experience a sudden feeling of aliveness, my senses get sharper and more focused, and I sometimes become physically excited. Like many fetishists, I have a very particualr idea about what weapons are hot and which are not (I prefer black matte rifles and Beretta .9 mms.)"

So, what is the attraction? The gun symbolises dominance in today's society so it could be seen as an extension of BDSM. In gunplay, the bottom (submissive) is led to believe that that their personal safety and even their life is in danger when no such risk exists. Bottoms describe how easily fear sets in when a weapon is pointed at them - despite being aware that the gun is not loaded. This isn't so much for fear of error by the top (dominant), but by the brain associating this object with danger.

For others, the attraction to women bearing weapons may find its root in sexual inequalities. Alex-in-Wonderland's site, devoted to his love affair with women bearing arms, includes images and clips that attract him. On the site, he explains his interest: "Ever since junior high school I've been fascinated by female action heroes. Attractive women who are strong and smart, and don't take any shit from their idiot male counterparts... I've spent many years searching for the ultimate "femme fatale" experience." In an essay examining his attraction for women with guns, he suggests that it is seeing a sexual role reversal is a large part of the attraction. He writes: "the women usually win because they are the heroic leads in these films. This is how I like to see women portrayed - as strong spirited, intelligent, and independent people who don't take any shit from anyone and can hold their own in a fight. Also, being a male and not having a lot of love and respect for my gender, I like seeing men portrayed as idiotic losers and pathetic weasels who are ultimately taken out by the women in the film. It's something different...we rarely get to see that most powerful and terrifying feminine attribute, Woman the Destroyer... In a male dominated society, it's also nice to see women "getting back at The Man" by defeating their sexist oppressors at their own game for a change."

While man's love affair with a hot, smoking gun has existed for years, perhaps the current political climate and tensions in the Middle East have increased its position as a fetishised object. In an essay entitled "Perversion and Terror" author Supervert wrote shortly after the events of 9-11: "If indeed the culprits behind the attack on America are religious fundamentalists, there is nothing they want less than to see you carry on with unwholesome practices and freaky obsessions....There is nothing so bothersome to religious fundamentalists than a public display of sexual weirdness. Its weirdness offends their narrow morality, and its openness rubs their nose in the fact that you live in a free country. So you want to fight terrorism? Indulge yourself. Get kinky. "

While I've no plans to apply for a gun permit anytime soon, I think Supervert's phrase "Indulge yourself. Get kinky" should be acknowledged by one and all. Each of us has our kinks, so why do the majority repress them? Sexual power is a mighty weapon, however it will never wield as much anger and aggression as when its left denied.

Uncross your legs, boys!

Phone sex operator Lipstick Explosion encounters many unusual interests in her professional life, however until recently, she'd never been exposed to the world of crush.

In her blog, she describes her first experience with this interest when a caller rang to arrange an in-person session. As she ran through a checklist of his needs, he mentioned he had a crush fetish. She writes:

"I asked if that aligned with his interest in CBT. “No,” he explained, “I’m interested in seeing you crush insects.” “Like roaches?” I asked. I admit I was perplexed—when he said “crush,” I envisioned crushing his balls with my feet or heels. “Yes, and other things. If I brought something like a crab, could you crush it?” “You mean step on it?” “Yes, until you crush it.”
I took a deep breath. “No, no, I couldn’t do that.” I kindly explained that I was happy to indulge his other fetishes, but that I couldn’t bring myself to step on a crab. I tried to be the consummate professional, and not judge him while clearly delineating my limits. "

After googling "crush fetish", she writes: " I don’t recommend doing this unless you have a strong stomach. I don’t recommend doing this late at night—I find that if I look up anything that creeps me out past 10pm, I have trouble sleeping. And this definitely creeped me out."

Why is it when we are warned not to look, we can't resist the urge to? Why couldn't I just leave it at reading a blog? Like Pandora with her husband's locked box, I couldn't ...and even worse, Google didn't try to stop me.

Ask most people what a 'crush fetish' is and chances are that they'll think it's a type of sub/dom game. Putting this to the test, I emailed twenty acquaintances last night asking them to define it without the help of the net. While six romantics replied it was a fixation on unrequited love and two affectionate ones replied it was a hug fetish, the majority, 12, thought, like Lipstick Explosion, that it was a fetish involving the crushing of testicles.

While some men do enjoy having their balls stamped by a stiletto as part of BDSM play, crush fetish is an entirely different type of domination game. Jeremy Biles, who teaches Media Aesthetics at the University of Chicago, has researched the virtually unexplored world of the 'crush freak'. In his paper, “I, Insect, or Bataille and the Crush Freaks” he writes: "At the cutting edge of the edgy world of sexual fetishistic practices, the crush freaks are notorious for their enthusiasm for witnessing the crushing death of insects and other, usually invertebrate animals, such as arachnids, crustaceans and worms. More specifically, crush freaks are sexually aroused by the sight of an insect exploded beneath the pressure of a human foot - usually but not necessarily, a relatively large but beautiful female foot."

While most are hesitant to squash a bug or spider for reasons of cruelty or mess, crush freaks are aroused from watching a woman stamp on objects ranging from food to insects to mobile phones. For some, seeing a delicate heel crush a tomato will suffice, however for others crustaceans are popular as they are aurally pleasing - making a loud noise when smashed.

Many experts believe that crush is a subset fetish. However, what it's a subset of is not definite. Perhaps it's necrophilia theme or draws upon BDSM. Katherine Gates, author of Deviant Desires: Incredibly Strange Sex , views the crush fetish as drawing upon the giantess theme of macrophilia and foot fetishism. Jeremy Biles suggests that the use of technology as a sexualised object draws upon technophilia or arousal from technology.

Perhaps only the "crush freak" knows for sure. Alan discovered his passion as a child. The 29-year-old said: "I was out in the back yard with my older brother one morning after a night of rain and we found loads of snails. Seeing my brother crush them awoke something in me. Perhaps it was the sound of the shell cracking or seeing the snails soft body crushed in contrast to the cracked shell, but I just wanted to see him do it again and again." Bachelor Alan, who requested anonymity, has had girlfriends but never been able to express this desire. He admits to telling one ex he was petrified of bugs just to see her forced to crush them. He said: "Seeing her so disgusted yet powerful at those times was a truly erotic experience. I wanted to be that cockroach under her foot and feel the weight of her body on me." While Alan considers himself sexually open and dabbles in BDSM play and foot worship, for him there is no greated buzz to be found than to catch a woman crushing an insect in a white patent-leather heel.

Jeff "The Bug Vilencia", as publisher of The American Journal of Crush Freaks, is considered by many to the be the foremost spokesman on crush fetishism. In an interview with G.A. Pearson for Cultural Entemology Digest, Vilencia describes the crush fetish as a variant of giantessophilism: "The feeling is that of letting go, powerless, helpless, tiny, small, and
buglike. Wanting to see a female crush something with her foot, longing to be a
helpless insect as you squirm around under her foot sole as she squishes your
body into grease."

In a separate interview, "The Bug" describes his ecstasy at the point of orgasm as: "... in my mind all of my guts are being squished out. My eyeballs are popping out, my brain comes shooting out the top of my head, all my blood squirts everywhere...What a release, that imagery really gets me off! Seeing that foot coming down on me, coming into my stomach and pressing all that weight onto me till I burst! Wow!"

With approximately 500 subscribers, The American Journal of Crush Freaks caters to men who find sexual pleasure in the misfortunes of the small, but the net is the primary supplier of crush-related videos. Films such as Vilencia's "Smush" have even gained cult status. Some suggest there are as many 2,000 titles available for this global market as well as websites featuring chat rooms and crush clips.

The popularity of crush videos, which some refer to as "Animal Snuff Films"continues to rise dramatically despite passage of a U.S. federal law in 1999 banning the creation, sale or possession of films featuring crushing or stomping of animals. Organisations such as In Defence of Animals and individuals such as John Schiff have encouraged net vigilance to put an end to crushing of life.

On his website's FAQ's, John draws a line between safe and unsafe crushing. He writes: "In this more tame form that involves only consenting adults and a tube of toothpaste, it's not necessarily a bad thing. There are many websites devoted to non-destructive trampling, foot fetishes, and "giantess worship", and although it may seem odd to those who don't share those particular fascinations, there's nothing inherently unsafe about it. However, when extreme fetishists grow tired of inanimate objects, they may move on to live animals. Once the fetishist resorts to killing living things, he or she has crossed the line into unacceptable (and criminal) behavior."

In extreme fetishism, of whatever type, a line is crossed - however, it is important to bear in mind that fetish runs on a spectrum. While the majority will be satisfied at the crushing of a juicy tomato in some WAM play, a slim minority will move onto living creatures. As G.A. Pearson points out in his article: "Clearly, I just don't get the whole crush predilection. However, there seems to be very few crush freaks, so I don't think the invertebrate world is in great
danger. Crush fetishists represent a fascinating example of the human ability to eroticize just about any activity: in this case, one of interest to entomologists."

Lasso Me, Baby!

As a child of the 70's, I lived in 'superhero heaven'. With Wonder Woman on my television screen and Christopher Reeves' Superman films in the cinema, I knew that no matter what, good would prevail over evil....ah, you've got to love the Cold War for its subliminal propaganda.

I longed to be the transformed Diana Prince, brandishing the lasso of truth and looking stunning from every angle. There weren't many strong female role-models at the time...not that there are many now - although I must confess, I do have a Buffy moment every now and again.

Of course it wasn't just prepubescent girls who enjoyed Wonder Woman. Lynda Carter was an incredibly beautiful woman and appeared in the US on the cover of many magazines. For men, she sent their pulses racing in her tight, fitted attire and for women, set a standard for sexual attractiveness. That's the wonder of family viewing, you know.

For some young boys, however, Wonder Woman led them into puberty longing for an Amazonian goddess of love. Sthenolagnia, a phrase coined by German sexologist Magnus Hirschfield in the 19th century refers to sexual arousal from muscles or demonstration of strength.

However, the fetish with superheroines appears to draw on much more than attraction from strength. Sites such as Superheroines Demise, Super Woman, and Fem Power hint at many fetishes and sexual interests including BDSM and FMG. Female muscle growth (FMG) is a fantasy genre involving attraction to the muscular growth of a woman - as seen in bodybuilders or other muscular woman. It's related to growth fantasies and breast expansion fetish.

Perhaps the roots of the superheroine fetish aren't to be found in the costume - or even the golden lasso. Changes in the roles of men and women within society weigh heavily in the foundations of this fetish. It appears to have it's foundations in the equalisation or reversal of the power relationship between men and women.

For some, however, such as author Neal Pollack, the fixation on women of Amazonian proportions, like Wonder Woman, is not so much about the physical domination of the character as much as it's about the thrill of transformation. Neal's fetish for the Lynda Carter character began after a visit to a friend's home at the age of six. In an essay entitled Wonderlust, the Texan writes: "We walked in just as Diana Prince, Wonder Woman's dowdy alter ego, whipped off her hat and glasses, glanced around nervously and spun. Her hair bun loosened just slightly on the first twirl, leaving a little wisp above her brow. On the second go-round, it bloomed a little more. With the third rotation, a wavy, silken corona surrounded her head. I stood there, agape, as a ball of light bloomed in Diana's chest and gradually enveloped her. She emerged from the haze as Wonder Woman. At that moment, something inside of me awoke — something dark, raw and primal. "

In early adulthood, despite attempts to repress his desire for superheroine transformation, during sexual dry spells, Pollack found himself drawn in again. He writes: " One night I was lonely and horny, so I went to a comic-book shop in the East Village, bought a half-dozen superheroine titles from the '70s and early '80s, took them home and had a passionate session."

The author's more recent dabblings touch upon the toonophilia arousal with animation. Anime programmes, such as Sailor Moon, left Pollack a bit dismayed. He writes: "I felt more than vaguely pedophiliac watching a fourteen-year-old cartoon girl twirl around naked in space while brightly colored stars from a magic wand turned her into a mystical princess." A switch to adult anime to fulfill his desire for superheroine transformation left him in 'amazement', although, he adds: "It was too much, even for me."Sometimes, I guess you can have too much of a good thing - even thrills of a more adult nature!

While Wonder Woman episodes are relegated to repeats and Superman films to Christmas viewing, I wonder what superheroes will inspire the sexuality of future generations. Actually, no I don't. A quick glance through the kids' tv lineup has left me with the notion of Power Ranger sexploits and Transformers with genitalia which move at supersonic speeds. Oh dear, Generation Y are in for a letdown when real-world sexuality hits them!

Clowning Around?

Throughout history, right back to the Ancient Egyptians and Greeks, there has been a need for entertainment and humour that has been fulfilled by the humble clown. In their time, they've been known as fools or jesters - but regardless of their title, they've undoubtedly brought humour and laughter to the lives of many.

However, recently we've seen the tide turn for those brandishing the red nose. Perhaps it's the Simpsons Krusty the Clown, films such as Killer Klowns from Outer Space, Spawn comics, the band ICP (International Clown Posse) or 'killer clown' John Wayne Gacy Jr, but fear of clowns, coulrophobia, is on the rise...and there's the marketing to prove it! And if you're still in doubt, check out Jose Chung's list of media references to this fear.

As if the clowning community hasn't enough to deal with, Clown Sex is on the rise. Yes, you read that right...clown porn and all. While sexual bawdiness was a trademark of the clown until the 19th century, clown must-haves such as the Ancient Greek over-sized phallus were replaced by over-size clothes - making them suitable for all ages.

While humour definitely has a place within sexual encounters, I'm not quite sure this is what most of us had in mind. For the clown fetishist, the smell of greasepaint, the sight of full face makeup or clown accessories may send them racing for the box of Kleenex.

Organisations such as Stop Clown Porn Now have set out to bring an end to the sexualisation of the clowning institution. On their website, Infozo the Clown writes: "there currently exists a strong undercurrent in certain sick circles of Western subculture that seeks to reunite the clown with his explicitly depicted sexuality."

The spokesman blames the 80's popularity for 'clowning' for the glut of clown porn on the market now. He writes: "Like all fads, "clowning" was soon replaced with something new that entailed another run to the mini-mall to purchase the appropriate accessories, leaving the old clown costumes behind to spend the rest of eternity on Salvation Army shelves. But this supposedly harmless practice left a sizeable number of clown fetishists in its wake, unable to become sexually aroused without the fool's bells and whistles (not to mention juggling clubs and unicycles)."

The closure of circus schools and a glut of clowns, led him to write that: " Thousands of clowns were now wandering the streets of America with no place to call their own, no job for which they could be themselves and demonstrate their truly remarkable talents. "

Infozo believes that in the 1990's, the porn industry seized this niche for clown fetish and exploited it (and the clowns) via the internet. He writes: "Haven't the clowns suffered enough? They make their work out of self-humiliation, but should they be forced to go this far?"

However, not all clowns are dismayed by the concept of Clown Sex and porn. Porn star and dom Ouchy the Clown, spotting a niche in the sex industry, offers his services via the internet. In an interview with Sex-O-Rama, the star of flicks such as Cirque Noir: The Greatest Show on Earth, does not convey a feeling of being forced into the porn trade. Ouchy said: "I basically combined several disparate aspects of my life. I had been getting into S&M play, and also concurrently attended some parties as a clown... and was really starting to enjoy clowning around. I think the MOMENT came one night as I was leaving to go to an S&M play party. I had dressed in a leather harness amongst other things... and just as we were leaving, the thought occurred to me that I should put on a clown face...so I went back in and did it. The reaction was so crazy at the party, that I began to hatch the idea of Ouchy the Dom Clown the very next day."

While the idea of a dom clown brandishing a whip may not send you to sexually ecstatic, there are over 1.5 million web pages devoted to 'clown sex' and countless dvds to boot. Perhaps it's the taboo of corrupting an 'innocent' art, the tweak of their horn or even the appeal of the 'evil clown' which makes them the object of sexual fixation.